The Book

Ask yourself: Are all boys defined by snails and dog tails? And are all girls sugary nice? Is a boy not truly “all boy” if he is a percentage sugar or spice?

Steve shares his story and how he struggled for years with the often commonplace idea that masculinity is defined by athleticism, brawn, hunting, and toughness. At an early age, he began his search for identity and examined the discourses of Christian books on the topic of masculinity and found excerpts that made him question his identity and his Creator.

What does the Bible say about masculinity? How has culture or Christianity defined or dictated our gender stereotypes? Is there room for the boys and men who don’t seem to fit the macho mold? Have we bought into the snips and snails mentality and other precarious tales? In a world of bullied masculine ideals and expectations, the correct answer is not to man up.

Join Steve as he investigates the Scriptures, explores the stories of others, shares several contemporary articles and quotes, and continues to ask the hard questions about masculinity.

This book drops the idea of failure and compassionately addresses the personal, practical, and biblical issues surrounding masculine identity and offers hope amidst a world of macho stereotypes. We need a revival of men of conviction, strength, vision, and courage, BUT we will not change a thing if we hide behind our own masks of togetherness and toughness.


  • The reader will find identity in Christ & learn to live passionately with his unique God-given abilities.
  • The reader will feel the compassion and understanding he has longed to receive from the church.
  • The reader will navigate with the author through the many cultural masculinity misconceptions.
  • While recognizing his story in the book, the reader will discover compelling Biblical encouragement.
  • The wide variety of quotes, stories, statistics and insight will encourage and inspire the reader to be vulnerable and enjoy the abundant life that Christ offers.
  • The reader will receive practical advice for all of his relations and friendships.


Steve Hinkle is passionate about encouraging and empowering men (young and old) and his blog of two years has focused on advocating for men and boys who may feel like a male fail because of cultural or Christian masculinity stereotypes. Steve has worked closely with and ministered to teenagers and adults as a pastor, church planter, youth pastor, and educator for over twenty years. He has ministered in Pilsen, Chicago, Illinois; Baton Rouge, Louisiana; Hamilton, Virginia (outside of Washington DC); and Will County, Illinois.

Steve and Suzette have been married for fifteen years and are the parents of five children: Candace (age 26), Cameron (age 24), Caroline (age 22), Caitlyn (age 21), and Caiden (age 11). They live in Joliet, Illinois just outside Chicago, where Steve serves as spiritual development and teaching pastor at Grace Bible Church, Minooka.

Over the past two years, Steve has presented the message of this book to a growing audience and has been a featured writer and contributor to many online communities including: The Good Man Project, Christians for Biblical Equality and He has been interviewed on several podcasts including The Good Men Project Show with Dr. Vibe, Fatherpreneurship and We Rad Dads. Steve’s contributions on the topics of masculinity come from his personal stories and observations as well as an extensive library of over sixty books on the topic.

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