The thing about hip-hop to remember is that everybody was holding onto a false sense of masculinity, a false bravado, machismo, tough guy. Kanye [West] comes along with pink Polos and backpacks, Drake’s emotional, and Chance [the Rapper] is like, ‘Man, I don’t even play by those rules.’ Hip-Hop doesn’t play by those rules anymore. Just be yourself. There’s more room for people to be themselves and not feel like they’re a part of a box. People are open to exploring that.
I feel like that’s why I have a relationship with Him, because I need it. I suck by myself. Like, when I’m by myself and I feel like I have nothing to lean on? It just gives me some sort of hope and something to grasp onto, and a feeling of security, and a feeling of being wanted, and a feeling of being desired, and I feel like we can only get so much of that from a human.
I knew I was different. I thought that I might be gay or something because I couldn’t identify with any of the guys at all. None of them liked art or music. They just wanted to fight and get laid.
It was many years ago but it gave me this real hatred for the average American macho male.
Your books and comments
Your looks and your sentiments
They seem to portray a one-sided fellow
Your manly man escapades
A game of narrow-minded quips-n-charades
Just tough – no room for mellow
Our Leader: both carpenter and comforter
Different shades BUT you’re still my brother
Why are you afraid of me?
A gentler masculinity
A recent study by British hotel chain Travelodge has found that 25 percent of men take teddy bears on the road with them when they travel for business. These men report that their stuffed animals remind them of home and the significant others they have to leave behind. This is a shocking survey to many who believe that grown men shouldn’t tote around stuffed animals, as it betrays certain masculine gender rules.
That I own a stuffed animal doesn’t reduce the lethality of my karate death chop.
But most guys I know who won’t admit to having a stuffed animal have a desk adorned with action figures, which are just dolls with muscles.