Thank you for joining me on this Mom and Sons Bonding journey. I’ve been praying for each of you and asking God to encourage you, strengthen you, and empower you to be the best mom your boy needs!
CAN I COUNT ON YOU!?
Our churches need to reach all the men in the congregation and it doesn’t always happen with sports or decorated in camouflage. Moms need to know how to train their boys and encourage their spouses who don’t fit perfectly into the stereotypes. Dads need to know that it’s okay to be nurturing. That need to be told that their son isn’t a “sissy” if he cries, and how to accept, understand, and love a son who may not be the same as him. Boys and teens need to know that it’s okay if they are not “macho” and that being different then the cultural stereotypes does not make them gay.
My book can help! BUT… publishing a book takes not just a lot of time (and I’ve put in over two years of study and writing, have read hundreds of books, publications, and Scriptures on the topic), publishing takes followers and support.
1. If you stay subscribed, I’d love to send you periodic updates on the book and my blog posts. In the near future, I will be offering an email course much like the one I sent you BUT for dads with sons. When I promote the course, get your husband or male friends to sign up!
2. I’ve also found a publishing partnership that will help me get my book out within the next year!! BUT, like I mentioned before, it costs money. I will be launching a pre-order and fundraising campaign within the next year to try and raise the needed $7-10,000 – every small and large amount will make a difference! I’ll be looking for big donors as well (just in case you know someone who has a passion to get the book in print).
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Steven T. Hinkle
I’M PRAYING OR YOU!
I recognize that for many of you, you have a big task before you! Whether your spouse is supportive or absent or not involved in your son’s life at all – raising a son can be challenging and yet so rewarding.
This excerpt (written by a mom blogger) reminded me of the pangs of seeing your son grow up and the difficult task of “letting go.” Much prayer! Steve
What nobody told me was that the letting go starts so early. I thought I had time. I thought there would be moments enough so that when I added them all up, I would feel that yes, we had done it all. I believed it would feel complete somehow. Instead, I find myself panicking a little. He feels slippery to me, like sand I can’t quite keep in my cupped hands. I feel like I keep tapping his shoulder, asking him to look back, but he naturally wants to turn and keep striding forward on those long legs that baffle me. This is it, I think. He’s still my boy. He’s still my baby. But he belongs to himself and the world now, and I have to start letting him do that. I have to start, little by little, letting out the seams and unraveling the hems.
Thirteen, please be kind to me. I’m trying to be a good mom. I am trying not to hover, not to hold him back. I’m squeezing my eyes shut and turning my head, hoping he will fall gently when he does, knowing I can’t rescue him. I’m trying. But this is hard stuff. This is the hardest work of motherhood: knowing I have to let him go, knowing I can’t save him from heartache and failure, and then accepting that with what grace I can muster and handing him to the world.
I feel like I’m on the fastest downward spiral of the roller coaster now: the part where the wind is knocking the air out of my chest and I want to laugh, but I can’t catch my breath long enough to do so. My instinct is to hold on for dear life, but I hope I am brave enough to let my hands fly up so they can catch the air and I can enjoy the ride to come. I hope he can too.